Recently I had a wake up call.  I realised that I have not fulfilled my goal for my blog.

The reason why I started this blog is to tell my story.  I want to inspire people who are in similar situations to the conditions where I come from.  My aim is to help people realise that anything is possible with the right mindset.  I believe that what may seem as a deep hole, could actually be an opportunity.  If you believe you can get out of it, you will.  If you believe you can’t get out of it, you never will get out of it.

The mind is extremely powerful. We all need to be extremely careful what we fill it with.

 

I believe in the power of positive thinking

I believe that everything in life can be conquered.  All challenges that cross our path teach us something.  Everything happens for a reason.

What lets most people down is that they don’t believe that every situation can be conquered.  They don’t see hope.  They believe that what they want is out of their reach. They believe they will never achieve it.

It has been proven that negativity is so much stronger than the positive. Everyone needs to make an effort to be positive, whereas negative thinking comes naturally.

I have been accused on a number of occasions of being “too positive” and of “living in a dream world”.  But this is precisely what has helped me get this far.

There has been a significant amount of research done to see the impact of positive v negative thinking.  It may be worth your while to do some research.  (Some interesting links follow at the end of this article.)

Here’s something to ponder:

“Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.” – Zig Ziglar, personal development guru

“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” – Mahatma Gandhi, Indian leader

I have not started telling my story yet

Why am I being reminded of my mission?  Why have I not started telling my story yet? I have been afraid of what people may think.  (Yeah, sounds silly, doesn’t it?) Recently it became clear to me that I shouldn’t be afraid to tell my story.  On the contrary, I should be proud of how far I have come.

What’s happened in the past doesn’t really matter.  What matters is who I am today and what I have learnt from my past.

I have realised that I need to tell my story. I am going to start telling my story in small bits.  Baby steps.

Nobody’s life is easy.  Everyone has their own challenges.  Everyone has a story to tell. Don’t be afraid of it.

What makes the difference is mindset. What is your attitude towards what is happening to you?  Do you feel that there is no hope?  Or do you feel that there is a way to get through this – you just need to figure it out?

So here we go.  If my story helps 1 person to turn their life around, then I have achieved what I have set out to do by creating this blog. Join the journey with me.

Here’s your homework:

Here are some interesting links I found regarding positive v negative thinking – all are well worth reading to give you a better understanding of positive thinking:

https://www.the-benefits-of-positive-thinking.com/negative-thinking-versus-positive-thinking.html :

“When we allow ourselves to think negatively we limit our potential in many ways. The worst thing is that we may be so wrapped in negativity that we cannot even see that there are ways out.

However, there is always a choice. The key is your awareness of your own thoughts; then you can decide which type of thoughts you want to focus on.”

https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newTCS_89.htm :

“Positive and negative thoughts can become self-fulfilling prophecies: what we expect can often come true.

If you start off thinking you will mess up a task, the chances are that you will: you may not try hard enough to succeed, you won’t attract support from other people, and you may not perceive any results as good enough.”

(PS:  you can also do a short quiz to see whether you are a positive or negative thinker, and what you can do to encourage more positive thought.)

http://www.exforsys.com/career-center/negative-thinking/positive-thinking-versus-negative-thinking.html :

“The human mind performs a never-ending process of generating thoughts, whether it is conscious or unconscious. Just like a heavy traffic of cars on the highway, the human mind is capable of producing hundreds of thoughts even in a short span of time. It has been proven that the pattern of thinking affects emotions. Anything that occupies the mind also dictates the current state of emotion of an individual. Happy thoughts generate a blissful feeling; bad thoughts cause a negative feeling. Yet, it seems that for most individuals, a negative manner of thinking is an effortless thing.”

https://www.lifehack.org/289959/15-differences-between-positive-people-and-negative-people :

“As you know, it is a drastically different experience being around positive people versus negative ones. If you are striving to be more positive yourself, here are 15 ways you can do so:”  (follow the link above to learn about the 15 differences between positive and negative thinkers)

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/james-clear/positive-thinking_b_3512202.html :

“Research is beginning to reveal that positive thinking is about much more than just being happy or displaying an upbeat attitude. Positive thoughts can actually create real value in your life and help you build skills that last much longer than a smile.

The impact of positive thinking on your work, your health, and your life is being studied by people who are much smarter than me.” (read the article for more information on the results of this research.)

 

And just to throw a spanner in the works, have a look at this article about defensive pessimism:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/give-and-take/201310/the-positive-power-negative-thinking :

“Most people assume that strategic optimists outperform defensive pessimists, because they benefit from confidence and high expectations. Norem and Cantor found that defensive pessimists were more anxious and set lower expectations for themselves in analytical, verbal, and creative tasks. Yet they didn’t perform any worse.”