Wow, it’s hard to believe that it’s already NYE at the end of 2017 and beginning of 2018.  It feels like yesterday we were celebrating the start of 2017.  The end of the year is a time of reflection and it can very well land up being a time where you are so hard on yourself because you have not achieved what you set out to achieve at the beginning of the year – and this can lead to depression and a lack of motivation to move forward in the New Year. 

But maybe you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself.  Another way to look at it would be to reflect on everything that has happened in 2017 to see how far you have come.  And yes, maybe you still need to complete some of your goals, but you have come a long way since the beginning of the year, and that is worth celebrating.  Even the mistakes you have made can be celebrated because they have made you grow and have pushed you forward to doing things in a better way.

Here are my tips to avoid the depression and learn to focus on growth, change and be grateful for the good things that have happened in 2017.  By celebrating and expressing gratitude, you can start the New Year in a positive frame of mind, giving you the edge you need to move forward and get closer to achieving those goals that you have set.


Step 1 – get a pen and paper.  Even better, use a journal.

Step 2 – for each month of the year, jot down the major milestones – good things that happened, struggles that you have had, mistakes you made.

Step 3 – next to each of your milestones, pencil in what you have learnt from that experience.  What doors were opened as a result of that event?

Step 4 – highlight all the positives in a nice bright colour.  See how pretty your journal looks now and how much positive has come out of the negative events along the way?

Step 5 – express gratitude for all of these experiences and the blessings that you have received as a result.  Always say “thank you”!

Step 6 – summarise how far you have come and give yourself pat on the back.  Ask for abundance in 2018!

Negative things that happen to you can always be turned in to positives.  Be grateful for them for they have taught you something and made you stronger.  Embrace them, don’t be scared to face up to them and learn the lesson.  This is how you grow.  This is how you figure out where you are headed and what your purpose is in life.  When things happen, they are there to teach you, to guide you in the right direction.

2017 has been an amazing year for me – I have started my blog, which was a big dream of mine.  I visited 3 countries – Orlando, USA; Lisbon, Portugal and Abu Dhabi, UAE.  My children excelled at school and university and it has been wonderful to see them grow (don’t ever underestimate how much you influence your child’s success – their success is your success).  All the conferences that I have run have been extremely successful and have resulted in happy clients and repeat business (no mean achievement in today’s business environment).  I was nominated as one of the Top 40 Women in MICE in South Africa for 2017 (MICE = Meetings Incentives Conferences & Events).  I celebrated 9 years at Scatterlings Conference & Events.  Finally, I completed short courses in Photography, Blogging & Content Management and Digital Marketing. 

Not everything has been sunshine and roses, though.  For the first time in years I was extremely ill with a kidney infection – this forced me to slow down for a while and reflect on where I am.  I encountered a client who was not happy with my work and who pushed me to my limits and opened my eyes to other ways of doing things.  Even though I find the client extremely frustrating, they have challenged me and pushed me, forcing me to grow and get out of my comfort zone.  Getting comfortable = being complacent = complacency is a killer of success

So, what have your achievements been this year?  What have your mistakes and failures taught you?  How can you celebrate them?  If you are not able to embrace them and see the positives they have brought to you, you will bring the negativity into 2018 and start the near year on the wrong foot.  Take some time to reflect.  Don’t be too hard on yourself.  You have done well this year.  Use your lessons as gifts to show you the way to achieve your goals.  Remember and appreciate the lesson.  Don’t ever lose sight of your dreams!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!  2018 – here I come!